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Nofap – The Key to Overcome Porn Addiction

Nofap – The Key to Overcome Porn Addiction

The key Overcome Porn Addiction – You are suffering from porn, sex, masturbation addiction, you have tried to really overcome this. Yet, somehow you seem to keep relapsing, you may even think “The urge is natural desire and I will never be able to overcome this addiction to stimulation.”

Well your search may come to an end after reading this article. In this article I will provide you with one of the most simple solutions to overcome your porn addiction. The key to overcome porn addiction. So simple that you won’t need to fight and will become free from this destructive habit. And maybe if you get this principle right you may set yourself free in other areas of life as well.

It so simple that you have to try, to not make it complex and keep its simplicity. If you get this technique right and implement it in the next 10 days then you are free from porn addiction, sex addiction, masturbation addiction (other addictions) forever.

Are you ready to become free?

“Greatness is the courage to overcome obstacles.” – David Hawkins

Disclaimer
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I discovered this technique (which I will reveal in a few minutes) a while ago, I discovered it after reading the book “Letting Go – David Hawkins” but somehow it didn’t really get it. There is a chance that you will have the same feeling. That’s why  you have to give it a fair trial for at least 10 days and see for yourself that it actually has its effect.

Another disclaimer, this technique will not take away your suffering. It will create a separation between you and your suffering. You will no longer be affected by it. You will become free of it.

Now you are prepared for the simple technique?

Yes?

Alright let’s go.

The Letting Go Technique

In life we tend to fight against our problems, emotions, addictions big chance you did that too. Maybe you fought against this porn and masturbation addiction. I see you nodding, that’s exactly what you did, well did it work? It didn’t right? Somehow you keep on relapsing. Here is the end of your relapsing, here is it:

Understanding craving & Aversion :

If you want to understand this technique you have to understand craving and aversion. Those are the 2 basic principles that ruin your happiness and peace of mind.

Craving:
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Craving is when you want something that is not here, something that you don’t have right NOW. This takes you out of the present moment and gives you the feeling that you need to become someone else. Craving is meant to make us move, to get us further in life. Still, craving does more harm than good.

But the strange thing about craving is that you don’t really want the substance that you are craving for, you crave for the relief the substance gives you. You want the relief of the feeling of craving. This is because craving makes you feel like a prisoner. It makes you feel that you need something and as long as you don’t have it, you feel frustrated.

The same goes with sex, porn and masturbation addiction. You want something, a relief.

For example:
You feel bored, you don’t want to feel bored, your response? Go and have sex, fap, this gives you a lot of dopamine and some adrenaline. Then after you have gotten your substance, the thoughts stop, the feeling of craving is temporarily gone. You feel peace. But not for long, 2hours – 1 day – 1 week, your uninvited friend is there again. And again, you feel like prisoner. You feel that you need to fulfill this craving.

“Well Thomas, if we don’t fulfill this craving, we repress it right? That’s not healthy for us.”

This dualistic thought is always there “either I give in or I suppress”, but there is a middle way, which I will explain in a few minutes. Stay focused it is important that you understand it.

In short: We want the substance to become free of the feeling of carving, because it makes us feel like a prisoner. And we want to be free. But it’s a vicious cycle, when we fulfill our craving soon another craving arises. And the cycle goes on and on. You need to break it.

Aversion:
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Aversion (Resistance) is always the big friend of craving. When there is craving there is always resistance to something. Maybe it is the unpleasant feeling that you are experiencing right now. The relapse of yesterday?

Whatever unpleasant thing that you experience in your life, you want to get rid of it. And that is understandable, your brain is wired to move away from pain and move towards pleasure. That’s just how it works, nothing to do about it.

Those 2 things are what create your addiction:

You experience an unpleasant feeling, you have aversion towards it. You start craving for more pleasant feelings. You need to get a way out of your unpleasant feeling, you take the substance (porn, sex, masturbation) to get away from this unpleasant feeling.

You are the slave of these feelings.

The common solution:
What most people do to get away from these feelings is either to give in or to fight / redirect their attention. They go out and start sport, or find new hobbies, get lost in their job, … They do everything to redirect their attention from their craving and suppress it. Right now you may start to see why this causes problems?

No?

This fighting doesn’t work, because you don’t work on the automatic response of craving and aversion. As long as you are a slave to those 2 bad friends, you are a slave to your addiction. You need to become free of them. But how?

The letting go Technique
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We have always fought against those 2 feelings. Yet nothing helped. And I can guarantee you that if you keep fighting, you will NEVER become free. You have to do something different but what?

This is what you have to do when the craving to watch porn (have sex or masturbate) comes up, and read it carefully, it is so simple that you will say “Did I read this whole article for this stupid thing.”, before I tell you the technique, you have to make this promise “I will try it for at least 10 days.” it doesn’t work after 10 days? Cool move on then, but give yourself the chance to become FREE.

Here it is in the words of David hawkins:

“We surrender a feeling by allowing it be there without condemning, judging, or resisting it. We simply look at it, observe it, and allow it to be felt without trying to modify it. With the willingness to relinquish a feeling, it will run out in due time.”

I didn’t really get this.
I mean what else is there to do then? You can no longer fight, there is not much practical about it either. Still these few sentences are one of the most important sentences of your life. Don’t try to look for something more then the sentences say. The only thing you have to do when a craving comes up is to observe it and do nothing.

How do you do nothing?

You can’t really do it, you can only do it by not trying to do it.

A way to practice this is by Vipassana Meditation, it’s an ancient meditation technique that helps you to observe aversion and craving.

Why does this work?

Freedom:
It works because you longer fight and this takes you out of the cycle of craving and aversion. You see when you fight, you have resistance towards this craving, so you have aversion towards it. But at the same time you create craving towards freedom, and this brings you yet again in this cycle.

When you observe however, you do not crave and have no resistance towards the feeling that is. It also separates you from those 2 evil friends. It helps you see that you are not them. And you can finally see what life really is, life is suffering. But even though there is suffering, you have a balanced mind. And you become the calm and peaceful observer in an ocean full of thoughts and feelings. You sit on the beach, while you look at the ocean, and even though there might be high waves and storms, you sit there and see: “Well I’m sitting here, I like the sound of the ocean.”

The Ending principle:
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Everything in our world ends. When we are born, we have to die, the same is with are feelings and cravings. They arise and pass on their own time. You have to just wait for it to let them go away.

Here is the tricky part, if you want them to go away, you are still in aversion and craving. You have to observe them without resistance or craving. With a neutral mind.

Clean your shadows:
Because you no longer fight against these feelings don’t get suppressed, and when they don’t get suppressed, old repressed feelings come out and you will start to feel a lot lighter.

The END

I hope this helped you on your nofap journey and helped you overcome porn addiction. If you are still searching for more, I’m sorry this is it. Reread the technique and try it till you get it. If you want to read more about technique however, then I recommend the book of David Hawkins – Letting go.

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And I really wish you the freedom that you deserve. Be free and have an amazing life!

ThomasV

Thomas started with personal growth at the age of 17, since then he never stopped. He likes to improve on every level of life but specializes in addiction, confidence, beliefs & thoughts and healing.

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